I have always been out of kilter with how people think I should look, makeup, smooth skin etc. In my late 20's I was refused service in an off licence because I didn't look my age but my 16 year old brother was served - this rankled big time. A good bit older now, a couple of months back a young woman mentioned about dermabrasion as there mother has treatment and I did wonder is it something I should do. I decided I should remain out of kilter, continuing to embrace my uniqueness and be content that I am not the face that causes a war.
Oh gosh yes it’s always good not to be the face that starts a war! My mother used to say years ago when I complained about people thinking I was younger than I was that I’d be grateful for that some day and I guess I kind of am now... I think embracing your uniqueness is wonderful and always feeling free to do what you want with your face is the best way to be. Although if you do try dermabrasion, let me know!
I write about detoxing from diet culture and embracing midlife, but there are days I look in the mirror and think, “It’s time to return to Botox” and seriously consider calling my face lady up. Does that make me a hypocrite? I got a breast lift after my third child (and a lifetime of being lopsided), and I still think it was one of the best things I’ve done for my confidence. Does that make me a bad feminist?
I wrote a book review this week of Kate Manne’s “Unshrinking,” a feminist take on fat phobia. She argues your body should belong to you and no one else, which I agree is the best way to view it.
We’re all in some stage of conforming to or rejecting societal norms, but we can’t escape being influenced by them.
No I think exercising the freedom to choose is feminism - some choose to do things that enhance appearance/help them feel younger etc and others don’t. It’s having freedom to choose that matters and I’m all for anything that increases confidence. I must have a look at Kate Manne’s ‘Unshrinking’ - totally agree that your body and your choices about it belong to you.
I have always been out of kilter with how people think I should look, makeup, smooth skin etc. In my late 20's I was refused service in an off licence because I didn't look my age but my 16 year old brother was served - this rankled big time. A good bit older now, a couple of months back a young woman mentioned about dermabrasion as there mother has treatment and I did wonder is it something I should do. I decided I should remain out of kilter, continuing to embrace my uniqueness and be content that I am not the face that causes a war.
Oh gosh yes it’s always good not to be the face that starts a war! My mother used to say years ago when I complained about people thinking I was younger than I was that I’d be grateful for that some day and I guess I kind of am now... I think embracing your uniqueness is wonderful and always feeling free to do what you want with your face is the best way to be. Although if you do try dermabrasion, let me know!
I write about detoxing from diet culture and embracing midlife, but there are days I look in the mirror and think, “It’s time to return to Botox” and seriously consider calling my face lady up. Does that make me a hypocrite? I got a breast lift after my third child (and a lifetime of being lopsided), and I still think it was one of the best things I’ve done for my confidence. Does that make me a bad feminist?
I wrote a book review this week of Kate Manne’s “Unshrinking,” a feminist take on fat phobia. She argues your body should belong to you and no one else, which I agree is the best way to view it.
We’re all in some stage of conforming to or rejecting societal norms, but we can’t escape being influenced by them.
No I think exercising the freedom to choose is feminism - some choose to do things that enhance appearance/help them feel younger etc and others don’t. It’s having freedom to choose that matters and I’m all for anything that increases confidence. I must have a look at Kate Manne’s ‘Unshrinking’ - totally agree that your body and your choices about it belong to you.